“She doesn’t love me anymore.”
Came the text from…let’s call him Brayo.
Maybe I’m a pessimist but my mind immediately went to his situationship with…let’s call her Njoki.
Allow me to introduce Njoki. She’s a student just like you and me. I can’t remember which course though. But I do know it was something in the accounts department, I don’t know. She is also a writer in silent. She doesn’t really do blogs. According to her, blogs are for wannabe and fake writers and heavens forbid she does anything to make her seem like a wannabe or fake. So she shares her stories on her private Instagram. Never quite understood how come she doesn’t think social media is also for wannabe or fake writers, actors, models etc. Or is there some sort of double standard I’m missing here?
Anyway, back to Njoki not loving Brayo.
“She doesn’t write about me anymore.” Brayo lamented.
I know where that came from and I am partly to blame. You see, I may have told Brayo about this quote that is well known in the creatives universe. I’m not exactly sure who the author is,
“If you are dating a writer or an artist or a musician etc, and they do not write, draw or sing about you, whether good or bad, then they do not love you. Creatives fall in love with the people we find inspiring.”
Makes you wonder if we look for partners or muses in the people we get involved with.
So Njoki’s stuff are usually highly erotic and steamy. And I mean the romantic kind of erotic not the stuff you find in porn. The way she describes an orgasm can make you believe you have never experienced one. And then seriously begin to question both yours and your lover’s skills in bed.
I’m under the assumption that most people wouldn’t like it if their partners wrote about their sexual escapades. But Brayo loved it. I don’t know whether it was an ego boost for him or what it is but for whatever reason, he loved it.
And throughout the year, Njoki hasn’t written anything about their love life. And it’s not from a lack of it. So now he is worried. She has reassured him that it is just writer’s block but he is not convinced.
I’m not going to comment on their situationship.
But one thing is for certain, if you date a creative at some point, you will end up as the material. There is no one in my life, lover or otherwise, who hasn’t inspired something I have written. But I really would like to get an opinion from the other creatives, where do you stand with that quote? The one on creatives falling in love with the people who inspire them.
And I want to explore the other side of the coin. If you are dating a writer, regardless of whether or not you love to read, do you read their stuff?
I will be back here with my findings. You’re lucky or unlucky if I know you and I know that your SO is a writer.