We have heard promising relationships coming to an end simply because of the gender roles. Gender equality movement has been there since the early 20th Century. In today’s piece I would be relating this in romantic relationships.
A romantic relationship is a partnership. You are accountable for and to each other. Once you begin dating, you are companions. Yes, I am aware Eve was created mainly to be Adam’s companion. However, they were both created to reproduce and rule the earth and everything in it. They do all these together. Let me now narrow down to the specifics.
Men want to be respected, but does it come on a silver platter? My opinion; no! Guys, let me tell you something, the ultimate point to win your woman’s respect is to love them. However, some men manipulate women when they have realized women have fallen in love with them. My brother, Karma will catch up with you. Be wise!
Adam, we are created to provide. I do not oppose the argument that a woman can foot a bill, but do not get used to it, dear men. Before going on a date, make sure you have something that can cater for both of you. Also, by providence, it is not only financial, but also emotional and therefore physical. Emotional in the sense of, when she is stressed out, be the listening ear. Women can sometimes be very wild when stressed out; do not be another baggage. Take her in and help her get back to her feet. Be her anchor! Physically, do not be hyenas or vultures scavenging on anything that passes by. When the time comes, you will get the meal… If you know you know. (laugh)
For those who do it raw (I do not advise so though) be ready psychologically of the outcome. Get ready to raise your own flesh and blood; your child. Men who reject their own pregnancies, shame on you! Are you aware there are men who would wish to have just a single child, but are biologically unable? Be there for not just your woman, but also your child. Even if you do not have anything, hustle to support her in raising the child, financially, physically and emotionally. Campus girls struggle to balance between the child and their schoolwork. There are those who leave their child to be raised by the women’s parents. Is it fair?
My Boys’ Club, our sex life is a private affair. Her privies are not property of the members of the club. I know it is something men talk about in between some glasses of your favourite drinks, but it is ungentlemanly! You are blindly taking your lioness to a large pack of hyenas. Keep your bedroom matters to yourself.
My dear female friends, he is not some bank ATM, where you just insert some card and key in some numbers and withdraw whichever amount of money you wish. Let me remind you that his money is his or his parents’! Even if he has said that, out of his love for you, that everything he has is yours, do not take advantage. Yours Truly is dating and if you meet Mrs Right, she will also advise you so. Your man’s wealth when you met him is his, it only becomes yours if you earned it together. For instance, if you start some hustle together, the proceeds are also yours.
The Committees can end a promising relationship. Sweetheart, you know your man, I assume. Be in-charge of your life. Your besties will be there, but do not let them destroy your relationship, unless you feel there is something that really, and I mean, really require Girl-talk. Otherwise, your best friend is your secret immediate rival. Respect your man, speaking ill of him with your best friends is as good as cheating on him. If you have an issue, approach him directly.
Ladies, when you see he loves you so much, do not take him for a puppet that you can control. The same love can fade away’ and he will hurt badly because you betrayed his love for personal gain. If it hits the rock, respectfully explain to him why you are calling it quits. My brothers, if she loves you and you get into a relationship with her, count yourself lucky! Once you mess up, you would have messed up the entire Manhood…Men are trash will become a song, and poor innocent male souls will pay the price. Be your brothers’ keeper and stick, if it does not work out, explain to her and walk away.
Sometimes, because that single person who hurt your feelings so badly, people use that as a shield not to admire or respect the other gender. No matter how bold my brother you are, the beauty of her soul will make you timid towards her. My ladies, no matter how timid he may seem towards you, he is bold enough to protect you, not because you have that pretty smile, curvaceous body, angelic voice or cute face; it is because he loves you, the soul you. Let’s spread love in our partners’ lives!