I have had candid discussions with my siblings on this topic. There are different definitions that I got from each one of them, but they are related. The Traditional African Society used to value women on character rather than beauty.
Who is the ideal woman?
First, she is feminine. This is not in terms of how attractive she is, but rather in terms of how she presents herself. In the 21st Century, females are allowed to be independent which has made men and women almost similar. Women with this characteristic tend to lose touch with their femininity and entirely dive into their masculine nature. Work on yourself. Do not work to be a man. Men are naturally cocky in their speech, dominant, competitive. In order to display courage, they tend to hide emotions and act fearlessly. A feminine woman is modest in speech (not conceited), less aggressive in competitions, display emotions, empathy and humility.
Also, she takes care of her appearance. There is a strong relationship between how much you care about yourself and how you care about other things, and people too. In addition, looking good shows high self-esteem. From a dating perspective, a woman who cares about herself sends a very powerful message to men. A man is assured that his generations will be under good care; in fact, the best. The more you care about yourself, the more valuable you appear, and the more people will value you and care about you.
Thirdly, she is emotionally stable. Women tend to have wild mood swings. An ideal woman is aware of herself; she knows her worth. She handles conflicts without being publicly dramatic. However, this doesn’t mean that she cannot cry and be angry. She can also have a nervous breakdown.
She has great social skills. She is a good conversationalist, has a good choice of friends and turns down a man without hurting his ego. She can make a negative comment without creating enemies.
The ideal woman knows when to set boundaries. She can be pleasant and welcoming but does not compromise when she feels someone is invading her space. If she feels you are not doing your part in the relationship, she will stand up (not literally) and tell you. When her boss disrespects her, she finds a more appropriate but respectful way to air her grievances. Her rule is that she is not disrespectful to anyone and no one has the right to disrespect her.
Also, the woman in a relationship gets playful. She comes up with games that make others feel good. As the relationship gets more serious, she reduces the games and bases the relationship on honesty and mutual support. For instance, she does not make her man jealous, does not threaten to break up and never pretends her exes were better. She prefers to build her partner up. The woman is never ashamed to show her fondness and admiration since she knows positive behaviour attracts more positive behaviour.
Hear say is that women take things personally. Typically, it is true. However, the woman has a growth type of mind-set, where she does not take things to the heart. People with a grown mindset are resilient to criticism, try to improve on their faults rather than justify them and they approach challenges optimistically. I have interacted with women in my life, and one thing that I can say is that, being able to speak up your mind without hurting a small but strong ego is a real game changer.
The ideal woman cares about her partner. She supports him to achieve his goal. However, let it be known that she also expects the same kind of treatment.
She also cares about her health. She watches out on the foods she eats, the drinks she takes and keeps fit by exercising.
The woman can also use the unapproachable style to portray her worth. Unfortunately, most of women who use this normally overdo it. Those around them view them as rude. I interact with women, and there are those who never look into my eyes when talking. Instead, the look down. This gesture is a show of humility. It makes people to only interact with you when necessary. Normally, when those type of women are uninterested, they tend to keep silent without making any eye contact. Those who overdo the unapproachable style would take out their phones and pretend they are chatting without excusing themselves. We also have women who stare into your eyes in a way you feel intimidated. These gestures makes people take her as extremely proud, and normally rude.
Dear ladies, the ball is on your court. Do you want to be the typical woman or the better woman?