To my future daughter;
First, I want you to know I love you and nothing can ever change that. I will be strict sometimes like how a good mother and parent should be, but don’t let that scare you into not being always open with me. I want you to tell me everything, from when you get that first crush, to when that cute boy talks to you, to when that mean person harasses you, to when you answer that very hard question in class that no one could. I want us to share every precious moment, from when you have your first period to when you first make out with someone. I want you to know having periods is nothing to be ashamed of. Never spend more than 1000ksh on mascara. Always keep it chill with the eyeliner.
Push up bras are so obvious. If he cheats, say goodbye immediately. He’ll probably do it again. Rape is never your fault baby. His perverse nature should never be justified. Stop posting and tweeting, if it is necessary to say then say it to their face. Be confident in your own skin. Let no one bring you down with their comments. Do not seek validation from anyone. Embrace your flaws, that acne is probably just puberty. Never tell your mom you hate her, you’ll probably regret it. Peace of mind is everything. If it affects your peace then it’s not worth it. Some people will never like you, let it not bother you. Always kill them with kindness. Live within your means. Learn to be content.
Never hold back, be the best you can be. Hard work always pays. Try to never lose touch with reality. Movies are not real. View everything in life as an opportunity to learn something new. Don’t believe stereotypes, get to know the person. Never let mistakes define you instead learn from them. Call your kuka and shosho, they always love hearing from their grandchildren. You were beautiful before he told you. He’s probably trying to enter into your pants. If he makes you sad and cry a lot of times, he’s probably not worth it, kick him to the curb. Your mom can see fake friends and crappy boys before you, trust that. Eat as much home cooked meals as you can, you will miss them. Enjoy your youth and high metabolism while it lasts.
Drinking alcohol and getting high is not the highlight of life, there’s more to life than that. Oh, and drugs are not cool, don’t do them. Appreciate everything and take no one for granted. Prayer is probably the most important thing you’ll ever initiate in. You are more beautiful that you will ever know. My mom, your granny, always says, “I always struggle to be better than my mum” and that I should do the same, so when you become a parent strive to become a better parent than me. I am not perfect. I will make mistakes but that should never make you think less of me. Lastly, I wish you never feel like I love you less at any point of your life.