“ About a month ago I liked your picture, about a month ago I sent you a DM and you ignored me, about a month ago I shoot my shot and you ignored me…valentine is coming where is your boyfriend? You are sitting alone; you are so lonely…” I can already here you singing along. So, Valentine’s Day is here with us, and here I am with some good news; you must not be having a boyfriend for you to celebrate Valentine’s Day and number two, this time you will not sit at home lonely, you will go to church, because it will be on a Sunday. So far so good, I believe we are good to go.
Michael Crichton describes a person who does not know history as a leaf that doesn’t know that it is part of a tree. Valentine’s day is a leaf whose tree is St. Valentine, a catholic priest from Rome in the third century AD. During his time, the empire had banned marriage because he thought married men were bad soldiers. St. Valentine felt that this was unfair so he broke the rules and arranged marriages in secret. When the emperor found out, St. Valentine was jailed and sentenced to death on the 14th of February. The church, through the pope Gelasius declared February 14th to ne Valentine’s day.
This is the week whereby flower companies and chocolate companies make the largest sales of all time. These two items(flowers and chocolate) go hand in hand on this special day. Without these two, valentine’s day cannot be complete. It’s like having a huge chunk of plain ugali in your mouth with nothing else to teremsha. Yaani kavu, bila escort. What is intriguing however is how this day will turn out in the middle of a pandemic ,that has stubbornly refused to go away and an economy that is on its knees almost going on its fours. A time when there is curfew and those who are planning to go out will have to keep an eye on the clock, lest they land into trouble. COVID-19 should give us a break, don’t you think?
I need to debunk a misnomer that has crowded our heads; Valentine’s day is meant for those couples and those in a romantic relationship. Not at all. This is a day whereby all of us are meant to celebrate those who we have an affection towards. Could be our parents, siblings, friends, colleagues , spouses and even our children. This is a day when we make known to these people that we love them and do to them acts that will make them feel special.
These few days remaining to valentines, are very crucial and delicate. I am stealing a secret for someone. This is not the week to quarrel unnecessarily, this is not the week to thumb your nose at your spouse, this is not the week to spew words carelessly. This is the week to be at one’s best behavior, lest you sit alone in the house, lonely. This is the time whereby mtu akikohoa unaitika. Well, in short, the mood for valentine should start building up and will culminate on Sunday. The process should be as smooth as possible. Come Monday, we are free to return to our factory settings.
Why is red color associated with valentine’s? Red is a color of blood and because of this, it is closely associated with passion, desire, longing and romance. It has a strong bond to love. Research shows red color evokes deep feelings of romance and stimulates excitement and energy. Well, it is not a must that you put on red on valentine’s day but if at all you need to portray feelings mentioned above, then donning in red is not a bad idea. The red color trickles down to the roses. Red roses without thorns symbolize passion, love and romance while red roses with thorns symbolizes a challenging journey of love that can be joyful and fulfilling and at times it can be painful and cruel.
A good chunk of people has their own school of thought when it comes to valentine’s day. According to these people valentine’s day is all about men trying to prove how much they love their girl. It is a daywhereby the girls sit back and relax as their guys break their backs to give them a perfect night. They also argue that if at all valentine’s day is all about expressing love to our loved ones, why should it be for just a day, shouldn’t it be the norm every other day; every day should be valentine’s day. They also feel that it’s a pointless holiday that has been commercialized by flower and chocolate companies that have honed their skills in making hypnotizing ads that will lure you into buying these products.
I hereby state without an iota of equivocation that I do not subscribe to this school of thought. Not one bit. Love is worth celebrating. Love is the fabric that holds all of us together. Everything else trickles down from love; it inspires the best books, films ,songs, paintings, name them. The greatest commandment is LOVE. In the hustles and bustles of life we often do not find time to acknowledge our loved ones and tell them how much they mean to us. Why not set aside a day whereby we put everything else aside and do nothing else but celebrate one another. Yes, given we ought to celebrate each other every single day but there is nothing wrong with celebrating a bit harder, a bit more on Valentine’s Day.
As I conclude it is important to know that celebration can be done in the simplest of all ways. It can be simple, inexpensive and fun. You can choose to trek with your loved one(S), star gazing; watching stars quietly with your loved ones, watching movies or even just spend some quality time with your family. The bottom line is making it as memorable as possible.
’love is patient, love is kind, love is not arrogant or rude, love conquers all things; let us surrender to love.’
Happy Valentine’s Day !